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My Dissolute Life

Written by others…

  • Teen sexuality (cont’d)
  • One short of a baker’s dozen, her version (part 2)
  • One short of a baker’s dozen, her version (part 1)
  • Playing hookie
  • A subway sub
  • Unsolicited hotness, complete with an orgasm
  • Hot and cold – her side of the story (part 1)
  • Happy Sunday
  • High-concept swinging (IV) – from a friend
  • Aide-memoire as tease
  • In which Véronique continues our tale… (part 2)
  • In which Véronique introduces herself… (part 1)
  • Take me out
  • Blog sex
  • Fan mail
  • Perks of writing a blog
  • Rashomon
  • This is what I did for you
  • A woman’s orgasm, in her words
  • Her orgasm #1
  • Have a drink with me? (Another view)
  • A woman’s orgasm
  • Third-person erotica
  • My inbox this morning
  • E-Lust #33
  • Church Board on a Bender

Introduction

L suggested I do this, and I must confess, I think she's on to something....

There's a lot of different stuff going on in this blog. The categories in the top bar - My Story, Memory or Fantasy, Musing, Criticism, and Written by Others - allow you to find what you're looking for a little more easily.

The "My Story" page, though, is essential to understanding anything else that goes on here. Please go there first.

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  • ▼ 2013
    • ▼ 5May 2013 (27)
      • After I cum
      • Paying for it, revisited
      • Why I write sex (part 2, after a fashion)
      • Room full of talent (three paeans)
      • Submit
      • Top ten reasons sex bloggers blog sex
      • How to successfully write a secret sex blog and not blow up your life or be a total dick - a manual
      • Paean
      • Apologies - one more test
      • Payday Loans!
      • What I'm thinking
      • Happy mother's day
      • Onomatopoeia
      • Infinity
      • Parking
      • Rock bands'll come
      • A paean
      • The sting of rejection
      • Your fantasy
      • Reading guide
      • Jealousy (both sides now)
      • Preferences
      • Idle thoughts
      • Early porn, part 1
      • A quick thought on admiring beauty
      • Stalking
      • Creep shot
    • ► April 2013 (40)
      • A gift from a friend
      • Diamond (2)
      • When you cum....
      • An evening with V
      • A brief complaint about Google
      • A rookie mistake
      • Some things I like on a Spring morning (below the waist)
      • Some things I like on a Spring morning (between waist and shoulders)
      • Some things I like on a Spring morning (above the shoulder only)
      • Feeling wicked
      • Sympathy for the devil
      • Ten (more) ways to suck my cock
      • Sleeping beauty (a haiku)
      • One vision
      • Dear Hyacinth,
      • Do this for me, would you?
      • When bloggers crush
      • Fat chicks
      • Pornography research
      • Sexting, cock shots
      • e[Lust] #45
      • Look at me
      • Creep shot
      • A thought
      • Going down
      • Sounds, voices
      • You wanna see something funny?
      • You know that I can’t help but imagine….
      • Alec Baldwin and Shia Lebeouf
      • I want to fuck you
      • Ruts and different pages
      • Gripe to me
      • Seven-letter words
      • Do you know me?
      • Sex work
      • Male sexual violence
      • Terminology (II)
      • Terminology (I)
      • Teen sexuality (cont'd)
      • Sex addiction revisited
    • ► March 2013 (27)
      • Rejection
      • The view from my room
      • Stop rape
      • Trainers*
      • Program note
      • Bad boys
      • e[lust] #44
      • Speaking the unspeakable
      • A study in brown
      • I love you in leggings
      • Addicted to what?
      • Waiting....
      • One short of a baker’s dozen, her version (part 2)
      • Remembering a dark moment
      • The public library
      • One short of a baker’s dozen, her version (part 1)
      • Playing hookie
      • On unavailability
      • On desiring, being desired
      • “Check her out!”
      • Getting and having
      • Love and desire
      • Public sex
      • Creep shot
      • One short of a baker's dozen
      • Diamond
      • Rabbit rabbit
    • ► February 2013 (26)
      • A subway sub
      • MILF
      • Creep shot
      • I'm not tall
      • For me
      • Scent, and taste, of a woman
      • I want to lick your pussy
      • When you cum
      • e[Lust] #43
      • Unsolicited hotness, complete with an orgasm
      • On unusual kinks
      • Off-balance
      • Hot and cold (her part 2)
      • Look at this
      • Ten more ways I want to lick your pussy
      • Hot and cold (part 2)
      • Ten ways I want to lick your pussy
      • Hot and cold – her side of the story (part 1)
      • My quest for rejection, my discomfort with acceptance
      • Hot and cold
      • Valentine's Day
      • Ratings
      • Writing about sex (take 2)
      • Writing about sex
      • Happy Sunday
      • The clothes make the man
    • ► January 2013 (48)
      • Shame, apologies, amends
      • She was working from home....
      • Don Draper vs. N. Likes
      • Ten (more) ways to suck my cock
      • Special redux, redux
      • Damn
      • Ten (more) ways to suck my cock
      • The same bar
      • Another night with Véronique (part 3 – her version)
      • Another night with Véronique (part 3)
      • Ten (more) ways to suck my cock
      • Another night with Véronique (part 2) – her version
      • Ten (more) ways to suck my cock
      • Another night with Véronique (part 1, her version)
      • Ten (more) ways to suck my cock
      • Compartmentalization
      • High-concept swinging (IV) – from a friend
      • Ebbs and flows
      • Another night with Véronique (part 2)
      • Meditation on my cock
      • Ten ways to suck my cock
      • Aide-memoire as tease
      • Another night with Véronique (part 1)
      • A note, at the bar…. (modern style)
      • Coda
      • When she woke up
      • Meet Véronique (part 2)
      • In which Véronique continues our tale… (part 2)
      • In which Véronique introduces herself... (part 1)
      • Meet Véronique (part 1)
      • Anticipation
      • Take me out
      • Blog sex
      • High-concept swinging (IV)
      • Fan mail
      • Pack a bag
      • High-concept swinging (III b)
      • High-concept swinging (III)
      • High-concept swinging (II)
      • Words are my currency
      • High-concept swinging (I)
      • Writing hotness
      • You want to please me?
      • Take me in
      • Chatting you up
      • High-concept swinging
      • Perks of writing a blog
      • Vanity
  • ► 2012
    • ► December 2012 (28)
      • Happy New Year!
      • Confidence
      • And THIS is (really) the last word on safer sex…
      • On (my) ego, or, warm nuts
      • I'm your man
      • A final note on monogamy
      • Risk-adjusted returns
      • The risks of "monogamy"
      • Hi, I’m N, and I’m an addict…
      • Safer sex, the last installment
      • e[lust] - the end of an era
      • She comes on my face
      • Safer sex (redux)
      • Safer sex
      • Open relationship mini-quiz
      • "Cum all over me...."
      • Men suck?
      • Mad Lib #2
      • Sexual availability and math
      • Mad Lib
      • Apology
      • She spreads her legs…
      • More, on cheating – and judgment
      • Laughter from my youth
      • Judgment
      • You sent me two pictures
      • One year
      • Rabbit Rabbit Rabbit
    • ► November 2012 (27)
      • Rashomon
      • Whoops - fuck Spotify
      • Rape fantasies
      • From a friend who likes toys
      • (just a nod)
      • Polyamory and swinging
      • Sex and death
      • Petite chicks
      • Porn and desire
      • Gratitude
      • The sound of an orgasm
      • Life is so fragile; happy Thanksgiving
      • The Sessions
      • Porn I like (cont’d)
      • Porn I like
      • e[lust] #41
      • And the beat goes on....
      • Starbucks creep shot
      • Chicks masturbating
      • Sex Addiction?
      • Surprising creep shot
      • I'm lazy
      • Spanking
      • Real Life
      • A quick thought on abortion, on election day
      • U2 on my mind
      • Symmetry
    • ► October 2012 (25)
      • Storm Surge
      • Glimpses of a fuck to come
      • Liza's twitching back to life...
      • Parenting
      • Questionnaire: how to handle your...
      • TMI Tuesday
      • Frisky Friday update
      • My Changing Relationship to Google Analytics Over Time
      • Frisky Friday #19
      • Something familiar, part 2
      • The Standard
      • Two requests
      • Fingered
      • Something familiar, part 1
      • Frisky Friday #18
      • Private vs. secret
      • Forgiveness, part 2 (or 3, depending on how you're counting)
      • My last post
      • Forgiveness
      • Desperation, neediness, and sure things
      • Trauma
      • Frisky Friday #17
      • Why not rub one out?
      • Some days…
      • Things I never thought would happen
    • ► September 2012 (29)
      • Strip clubs
      • Your breasts
      • An aside
      • Frisky Friday #16
      • A night at Le Trapeze (part 3)
      • A night at Le Trapeze (part 2)
      • A night at Le Trapeze (part 1)
      • Reluctant submission
      • Frisky Friday #15
      • The pitfalls of paying for it
      • Too fucking funny
      • Prostitution, commercial sex, paid dating
      • e[lust] 40
      • 69: Pro or con?
      • On haggling
      • Paid dating, take 2
      • Frisky Friday #14
      • Relative relapses
      • The evolution of trust in paid dating
      • The way my mind works
      • On intellectual property
      • GIFs in my Tumblr
      • Word cloud
      • Access Consciousness
      • Frisky Friday #13
      • And the next time…
      • She likes it rough...
      • Sex addiction
      • This is what you did for me #2 (part 2)
    • ► August 2012 (28)
      • This is what I did for you
      • Frisky Friday #12
      • She came... and then we fucked (Oral at a sex party, Part 2)
      • This is what you did for me, #2 (Part 1)
      • Just for fun
      • Oral at a sex party
      • My tears
      • Heartbreak
      • Frisky Friday #11
      • Compulsive massage (Part 1)
      • e[lust] #39
      • This is what you'll do for me, #2
      • What do you know about cock worship?
      • Frisky Friday #10
      • Strip clubs, revisited (preceded by a rant)
      • First impressions
      • Melancholy moanings
      • Quick note on redheads
      • Do you ache?
      • Frisky Friday #9
      • A woman’s orgasm, in her words
      • Walking on the street
      • You send me....
      • Peak erotic experiences: fantasy
      • Best sex blogs
      • What I'm thinking about when I'm fucking you
      • A quick note on photos
      • Frisky Friday #8
    • ► July 2012 (48)
      • What I’m thinking about while I’m licking your pussy
      • My blog's not hot lately
      • My friend
      • Peak Experiences, Peak Fantasies
      • The meaning of paying for sex, of true submission
      • Sexy racer
      • OKCEnemies
      • Can Love Last?
      • Creep shot
      • What I'm thinking while you're sucking my cock
      • Frisky Friday #7
      • Amends
      • Her orgasm #1
      • Envy
      • My friend–update 2 (status update)
      • My friend – update 1 (is this a scam?)
      • Thoughts on Fifty Shades of Grey
      • Period sex
      • Age difference
      • My friend
      • Have a drink with me? (Another view)
      • Frisky Friday #6
      • Monogamy. Ish. Orgasm woes
      • Blog mechanics
      • e[lust] #38
      • Have a drink with me?
      • Shame
      • Lilly rides again
      • Frisky Friday #5
      • Lunch break
      • James Deen, GQ, and soccer
      • Monogamy. Ish. Sex Clubs?
      • A whole different kind of orgasm
      • My friend
      • Sex on a boat
      • Introducing: Monogamy. Ish.
      • Sex on a boat - the prelude
      • A friend
      • Coming soon....
      • On T (Part 3)
      • On knowing who reads me
      • Frisky Friday #4
      • On T (Part 2)
      • On T (Part 1)
      • Questions about swing clubs, and Le Trapeze
      • This is what she did for me
      • Creep shot
      • Labels
    • ► June 2012 (46)
      • A woman’s orgasm
      • Frisky Friday #3
      • Distant buddy trust-building, in real time
      • This is what you’ll do for me
      • Programming note
      • My orgasm
      • An unnamed sex party
      • On quickies
      • How to handle her pussy
      • Le Trapeze, once more
      • Frisky Friday #2
      • Trust and distant buddies (II)
      • In silence
      • My new banner
      • On distance, virtual relationships, and trust (I)
      • Porn: seeking vs. finding
      • Female personal trainer sought
      • On strip clubs
      • Talking dirty
      • How to handle my cock
      • The Oxford Comma
      • e[lust] #37
      • The most interesting man in the world
      • Frisky Friday #1
      • Cock shots
      • Jefferson
      • BDSM
      • Poly cocktails
      • On being a slut
      • Inappropriate gym-wear
      • Guilt
      • Remittance Girl
      • Happy Endingz
      • Honest Courtesan
      • Dishonesty
      • Relaxation
      • Open letter to Dan Savage
      • Creep shot
      • Burlesque
      • I want to watch you
      • On reading erotica
      • Four ways of looking at jealousy (apologies to Wallace Stevens)
      • Wisdom vs. Folly
      • I’m offensive
      • Quickie
      • On being sexy, ill, and blogging
    • ► May 2012 (37)
      • Unaccustomed silence
      • C cums again
      • A new orgasm - LONG time coming
      • Some things I like, on a rainy day
      • Spreadsheeting orgasms
      • Further thoughts on creep shots
      • Some things I like, on a warm day
      • Folly, part 5
      • Another orgasm
      • On blogging, and my narcissism
      • Sugar daddies/sugar babies
      • Porn recommendation
      • Folly, part 4 (Biter)
      • Creep shot
      • e[lust] #36
      • Sex tips for the repressed - Part 2
      • Folly, part 3
      • Sex tips for the repressed - Part 1
      • Happy Mother's Day
      • Eulogy for a fling
      • Test post
      • Just because it’s funny
      • The webmaster
      • Orgasms, orgasms, orgasms
      • Lilly has a G-spot orgasm
      • Folly, part 2
      • Folly
      • Love
      • Have we met? (I guess we must have)
      • The fraternity of confident men
      • Ru(m)ination
      • Wisdom
      • Monogamish sex
      • The vagaries of desire
      • Ethical non-monogamy
      • Paying for It
      • Noms de…
    • ► April 2012 (36)
      • “Wanna make out?”
      • Craving
      • Third-person erotica
      • Conversation
      • Creepshot
      • Ruthlessness
      • A view from below
      • Dear Liza and D:
      • Rejection
      • Her calf
      • Lilly cums for us
      • Let's go
      • A contest
      • Apologies
      • Agony aunt
      • Answers, two hours later
      • Aborted creep shot (subway platform, real time)
      • Answers, 4/18, 11 pm
      • Questions
      • Swinging and male bisexuality
      • Creep shots
      • Downtown
      • Delicious
      • e[lust] 35
      • An apology
      • Face-fucking
      • Paean to Sasha Grey
      • Your pulse races
      • Around and 'round
      • Your lips
      • BBW
      • Humiliation (and TMI)
      • You want me to fuck you
      • Now
      • Special, redux
      • I love L.A.
    • ► March 2012 (55)
      • The beginning of the end
      • Yoga
      • I love gay men
      • Blowjobs, blowjobs, blowjobs....
      • You look down at me, while I...
      • Lists
      • She’s self-conscious about her grey hair
      • Motivation
      • Namaste
      • My second first paid blowjob
      • Update on L
      • Blowjob in a dark room
      • Matinee
      • Mysterious
      • Her mouth, twice
      • The stories I told myself, the lies I believed
      • Vox
      • Too much of a good thing
      • Assignment
      • My first "happy ending"
      • Audio posts
      • Down the rabbit hole
      • Sasha Grey, equal pay, redux
      • Predation
      • Another TMI post
      • Dominance, at a distance
      • Want
      • Firsts
      • e[lust] #34
      • A quick note on mechanics of the blog
      • Troublemaker
      • She cums for me (3)
      • I gently lowered the blindfold
      • Steak and BJ Day
      • I love Sasha Grey
      • Creep shots
      • Broken glasses
      • Mouth moistness and Twitter
      • Viagra
      • Secrecy
      • She cums for me once more
      • Willow and her friend
      • A sexy video
      • Cum for me (part 2)
      • Cum for me
      • Boundaries
      • Let’s go for a ride
      • How I lost 40 pounds (hint: hot trainers)
      • Jealousy
      • Problems with my blog so far
      • Gone fuckin'
      • Working out (#2)
      • What works, what doesn't?
      • CAUTION
      • Getting ready to move....
    • ► February 2012 (55)
      • Not sure what this means...
      • A few thoughts on porn
      • Fucking Google
      • I like breasts
      • Pubic hair, redux
      • Trimming the hedges and man-scaping
      • Need
      • Cum shot
      • Tingling and pulsing
      • Unconscious mutterings
      • Failure to launch
      • One more late-night thought....
      • What to do when alone
      • My origin myth–an alternate, and abbreviated, telling
      • Santorum
      • Cheating
      • Tenderness
      • My inbox this morning
      • A bit more on the Secretary
      • Recognition
      • E-Lust #33
      • Working out
      • Working out
      • My origin myth, continued
      • Hunger and compulsion
      • Monogamish
      • Not for me
      • Jealousy
      • Money and attention
      • Sympathetic
      • Money shot
      • To submit, or not to submit–that is the question
      • Unhappy ending?
      • Bratty subs
      • Planning a date
      • Which panties shall I wear?
      • TMI
      • Google
      • Assignment
      • Tall girl, 2
      • The tall girl
      • We’ve never met
      • Three sentences
      • Harassment
      • Apologies to commenters
      • In charge
      • Mimosa
      • Note to Slow
      • Dominatrix
      • Memes
      • A note on commenting
      • Coffee shop
      • A three-hour blowjob
      • Exhibitionism and fabulism
      • Image
    • ► January 2012 (83)
      • The gym
      • Sensory deprivation
      • A spanking
      • Call for submission/s
      • Sympathy for the Devil (2)
      • Submissive sought
      • Fleshbot
      • Money for nothing and the chicks for free?
      • Massage parlors
      • My origin myth
      • Traffic
      • Search
      • The economy of sex
      • An assignment
      • Distant rendezvous
      • Just a thought
      • We now resume our regularly scheduled programming
      • A Nice View
      • Leash
      • Taxicab confessions
      • Hotness abounds
      • Boundaries
      • Sympathy for the devil
      • A fantasy of mine....
      • What doesn’t turn me on
      • What turns me on
      • Shame, or, Sonnet 129
      • Monogamy and its discontents
      • Breaking up is hard to do
      • She sits at the bar
      • My Sally Field moment
      • The Herald Square Hotel
      • Writing about sex from a distance
      • Fucking, being fucked
      • Miami
      • Ye Olde Carlton Arms
      • The Liberty Inn
      • Hourly hotels
      • Thanks for letting me fuck your wife
      • Meet the Historian
      • Privacy, secrecy
      • Symmetry
      • Star-fucking
      • Custody of the eyes
      • Your upcoming date
      • Up in the air
      • My sex addiction, 2
      • E-Lust!
      • Sex clubs/parties in New York - Chemistry
      • Cute plumber
      • Secretary
      • My sex addiction
      • Sex clubs/parties in New York - Ddevious Delights
      • Sex clubs/parties in New York - OneLegUp
      • Sex clubs/parties in New York - Behind Closed Doors
      • Be my "lover" and "play" with me
      • Exhibitionism
      • Sex addiction - the fellowships
      • Sex clubs/parties in New York - Le Trapeze
      • Hitting bottom
      • Contest over
      • A quick welcome, and an apology (ish)
      • Tiger Woods and me
      • Porcelain doll in the window
      • Contest update
      • Compulsion
      • ... that kiss we shared
      • Ashley Madison
      • Metrazur, RIP
      • Hasidim at a swing party II
      • Contest update
      • Afternoon delight
      • Hasidim at a swing party
      • Nooner (albeit at 3 pm)
      • Funny sign
      • Jealousy and envy
      • Polyamory, seriously?
      • She kneels before me
      • A contest
      • Polyamory and sex at dawn
      • Euphoric recall
      • Instructions
      • Happy New Year
  • ► 2011
    • ► December 2011 (36)
      • Bite me. HARDER!
      • Date night
      • My greatest fantasy
      • New Year's resolutions?
      • Instructions
      • Christmas is fun(ny)
      • I can't breathe
      • First kiss - a week ago
      • Merry Christmas
      • Last-minute gifts
      • Privacy revisited
      • 2011 firsts
      • You can run, but you can't hide
      • Win-win
      • How do YOU handle jealousy?
      • Palmistry
      • Magic
      • Ratchet
      • L starts a blog
      • Twenty-one
      • Anticipation
      • Reverie, inspired by a photo
      • And the university administrator is no more
      • I do love me some anticipation
      • Church Board on a Bender
      • Black and Blue
      • Catherine Millet and jealousy
      • Morning wood
      • M and J
      • She lives 1,000 miles away
      • How I hate the common cold
      • Special
      • L - an introduction
      • A New Penpal
      • Saturday Night
      • Friday Night

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