I really like being in situations that are hot in my mind, but not necessarily visibly hot to others. I often organize my dates to feature such instances: sending a woman to masturbate in the bathroom, smelling her cunt on her fingers, having her remove her panties for me. Or, having a woman I know will suck my cock soon sit separately from me at a bar.
There’s something… powerful… about these situations. It makes me feel special, desirable, and in possession of a secret. Somehow, there’s something about my privileged possession of a woman, in the sight of others, that makes my cock hard.