Nov 092014

I recently wrote that I thought my discomfort with rough sex has something to do with my ambivalent relationship toward aggression, with the difficulty I feel in accessing it, particularly in sexual interactions with women. (And, to confuse things a bit, I didn’t use the word “aggression,” but instead, used “anger.” I think the words […]

Sep 222014

Sex and aggression: I’ve always had a hard time with these two drives. I’ve always strived to get in touch with my aggression, to treat the women with whom I have sex well, but at the same time, to hit them hard enough, to fuck them hard enough. The truth is, you see, I don’t […]

Nov 132013
Harm and destruction

In my last post, I wrote, “But lately, there’s been an awakening sense of violence in me. A burgeoning sense that I want to… harm someone, destroy someone, when I fuck her.” This has elicited a couple of different reactions from readers. The primary one has been, essentially, “YES! Please destroy me!” There’s been a […]

Nov 102013

I’ve written before that fucking isn’t my primary sexual activity, that I’ll take oral any day. I’ve also written that one of the challenges with me for fucking is the intrinsically aggressive nature of it, that my domination is, by its nature, sensual, not aggressive, not punitive, not violent. Even when I’ve been most violent, […]