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Dating tina: chemistry, submission, and running away
Read moreTina has a voice like catnip and everything else going for her – but I asked her to wear something green, and she said she was busy.
Dear democrats: stop the text message harassment
Read moreI have voted Democratic my whole life and given generously — and now I get fifteen begging texts a day. Stop it.
Isabella: desire, loss, and overlapping worlds
Read moreI’m writing about Isabella, one of two women who taught me the most about my sexuality. She showed me my cock could be an object of desire, while the Secretary taught me my desire itself could be desired. I miss them both — not just for sex, but for the intimacy we shared.
Maintenance: of everything
Read moreI just read this book (my second complete book in two days – it’s vacation!) – and damn. I feel like, now, I have a reading list for the next ten years! And, it fucking blew my mind.
Shame: reflections on self-acceptance over time
Read moreI used to put everything here, no flinching. Now there’s a list of things I won’t confess, and I can feel why.
Bike lane beauty
Read moreTwo years of biking to work instead of riding the subway, and this morning I finally saw an ass worth writing about.
My 40th high school reunion
Read moreI biked home from my 40th high school reunion feeling the same alienation I felt in high school — most of my actual friends weren’t there, and the crowd felt like a different world. I had a few genuinely connected conversations and skipped the after-party, choosing to bike in the night air, and my wife, and scotch, instead.
Epiphanies
Read moreI’ve written a hundred times about being abandoned. Turns out I missed the part where I’m ashamed.
