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• Addiction and judgment (more on philip seymour hoffman)

  February 10, 2014 · 2 min read

  Blaming addicts for their addictions is unhelpful. Judgment is just emotional dishonesty repackaged as truth.

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  Addiction

• Addiction and weakness

  February 8, 2014 · 2 min read

  Philip Seymour Hoffman’s death, and what I know about not being able to not.

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  Addiction Mortality

• Prosecuting rape

  February 5, 2014 · 4 min read

  Some thoughts on rape shield laws, hearsay, and why confronting one’s rapist in court shouldn’t be the price of justice.

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  Musing

• Ashley madison

  February 5, 2014 · 1 min read

  I was wrong about Ashley Madison.

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  Dating

• On women’s age

  February 4, 2014 · 3 min read

  A reader in her 40s asks whether I prefer younger women. The honest answer is complicated, and has to do with the difference between 2-D and 3-D.

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  Musing
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• I’ve decided to stop writing sex

  February 3, 2014 · 4 min read

  In a hotel elevator, I told Graziella I hate writing about sex — and then, of course, I went ahead and wrote about the sex.

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  Memory or fantasy?
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• My wife

  February 2, 2014 · 1 min read

  I bought my wife sexy boots. She wore them for me. I responded like an enormous doofus.

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• Sofia – in pictures

  February 1, 2014 · 5 min read

  Sofia lives thousands of miles away, sends me more than my imagination could conjure, and does whatever I ask, smiling. Here she is.

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  Memory or fantasy?
  Compliance Distant buddies Lingerie Sofia