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Je ne suis pas charlie
Read moreI don’t think people deserve to be killed for what they say. But I think people have a responsibility when they open their mouths, or pick up their pens.
“no ma’am”
Read moreIn which I am schooled by two very sexy baristas.
“what movies turn you on?”
Read moreTwo scenes from 1986 that shaped my sexuality — and that I didn’t really let myself understand for another twenty-five years.
Pay attention to me
Read moreThe happy circle of attention and compliance, and the women who break it.
What does being “dominant” mean to you?
Read moreWhat is the definition of “dominant”? Well, I don’t really give a fuck. The salient question is, “What does my dominance look like?”
Two soft cotton dresses
Read moreTwo women in cotton dresses, standing against a wall, waiting for me.
The edifice of monogamy
Read moreMonogamy is ascendant as a sacred cow, and the fact of rampant infidelity is taken as evidence not of a problem with how we think about fidelity, but of widespread depravity.
Respect
Read moreWhat I mean by “respect” is not a universally agreed-upon set of norms. Here’s what I mean.
