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• The etiology of shame

  September 9, 2013 · 2 min read

  Where shame comes from, and why I need it.

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• A quick question for subscribers by e-mail

  September 9, 2013 · 1 min read

  A bit of housekeeping on the e-mail delivery front.

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• Hot gifs

  September 9, 2013 · 1 min read

  A new Tumblr, devoted to the GIFs that move me.

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• Bend to my will?

  September 9, 2013 · 2 min read

  I don’t want to bend you to my will. I want your will to curl into mine like shrink-wrap — no distance, no submission, just utter harmony. Maybe that’s not dominance. Maybe it’s just infantile.

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• Smoking – part 2

  September 8, 2013 · 2 min read

  The shame of buying a pack, and the way my body betrays me by feeling better the moment I decide to do it.

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• Imagine

  September 5, 2013 · 1 min read

  A woman on a train, and the stories I tell myself about her.

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• Loneliness and rejection

  September 5, 2013 · 3 min read

  I tossed off a quick answer about loneliness, then spent the next few hours realizing I was wrong about myself — and tracing the line from rejection to shame to paying for the very rejection I was trying to escape.

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  Superiority

  September 4, 2013 · 6 min read

  Navigating the minefield of CraigsList couples, where clarifying your sexual preferences can earn you a lecture on hetero-normativity from a former burlesque dancer.

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