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• Lily

  February 14, 2014 · 3 min read

  Lily and I were together a lifetime ago, and our relationship taught me something I’m still learning: that caring for someone and fucking them well require very different muscles.

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• Haunting

  February 13, 2014 · 3 min read

  The memory of the Historian’s mouth on my cock haunts me, and the night ended on a Brooklyn block transformed into the 19th century.

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• Woody allen

  February 10, 2014 · 3 min read

  Woody Allen makes me uncomfortable, and I’d rather not think about why.

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• Addiction and judgment (more on philip seymour hoffman)

  February 10, 2014 · 2 min read

  Blaming addicts for their addictions is unhelpful. Judgment is just emotional dishonesty repackaged as truth.

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• Addiction and weakness

  February 8, 2014 · 2 min read

  Philip Seymour Hoffman’s death, and what I know about not being able to not.

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  Addiction Judgment Philip Seymour Hoffman

• Prosecuting rape

  February 5, 2014 · 4 min read

  Some thoughts on rape shield laws, hearsay, and why confronting one’s rapist in court shouldn’t be the price of justice.

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• Ashley madison

  February 5, 2014 · 1 min read

  I was wrong about Ashley Madison.

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• On women’s age

  February 4, 2014 · 3 min read

  A reader in her 40s asks whether I prefer younger women. The honest answer is complicated, and has to do with the difference between 2-D and 3-D.

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