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Do you know me?
Read moreYou know what I choose to show you, and almost nothing else.
Sex work
Read moreAmong the dozens of women I encountered, what struck me most was the enormous variety — and what that taught me about sex work as a category, not a thing.
Male sexual violence
Read moreWe men are like a kid running with scissors: irresponsible and dangerous.
Terminology (ii)
Read moreA reader asked me to define narcissism. I’m happy to oblige — it’s a word I know intimately.
Terminology (i)
Read moreA glossary of sorts — what I actually mean when I say “compulsion” and “addiction,” and why the distinction matters more than you might think.
Teen sexuality (cont’d)
Read moreA reader responds, thoughtfully and at length, to my earlier post on teen sexuality.
Sex addiction revisited
Read moreI keep circling back to this one, because smart people I admire keep getting it wrong in the same way.
Rejection
Read moreThe feeling I fear most is the one I’ve spent years seeking out.
