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A thought to ponder
Read moreAdam Phillips, on the futility of sexual jealousy.
Uncertainty, fear, arousal – a fragment from a past date
Read moreShe’s late, and I cycle through annoyance, gratitude, and want before she even arrives — from the wrong direction, dressed exactly as I asked.
Tinder strategies, part 2 – contact after matching
Read moreOn Tinder, I lead with something vaguely suggestive and slightly funny — and I mean every formulaic word of it.
Instructions
Read moreA set of instructions for an evening.
Sofia
Read moreI’ve never met Sofia, but I know her body — in fragments, in parts — better than I know most faces I see every day.
Tinder strategies, part 1 – swiping
Read moreMy three approaches to swiping on Tinder, from mindless to attentive — none of which, it turns out, makes much difference.
More to come
Read moreI meant what I said, but maybe not how you heard it.
Anger
Read moreFor me, anger is never primary. It’s always protecting me from something else — usually fear.