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Youth and adulthood
Read moreMy body responds before my mind does, but thankfully, my mind wins every time — and it’s not virtue, it’s something deeper and darker that keeps me honest.
Remembering strip clubs – the icky parts
Read moreStrip clubs can be glorious, and they can be where you go to watch a little part of yourself die. I’ve done both.
You watch from afar
Read moreYou’re out there, reading, aching, wanting. I know. Write to me.
Tales of rejection
Read moreThere’s so much more sex I don’t have than sex I have. Sometimes I wonder if it’s not the rejections I crave even more.
A late-night rendez-vous
Read moreCoffee, months of tension, and then, finally, a late night in which she did everything I asked and I disappeared into the dark.
Dispassionate
Read moreTwo sexy women, two great dates, and two write-ups that made the sex sound less hot than it was. I’m better at desire than satisfaction — on the page, at least.
Among the things i like about wolves
Read moreThis.
Esther perel nails it
Read moreEsther Perel talks about infidelity without demonizing anyone, and gets it exactly right.