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Sex and death
Read moreWhat if what I’ve always understood as infinite desire is actually infinite fear?
Sex addiction?
Read moreI’m not addicted to sex, but I sure behaved like an addict.
Forgiveness, part 2 (or 3, depending on how you’re counting)
Read moreForgiveness isn’t something we do. It’s something that happens to us — if we let it.
Some days…
Read moreSome days I’m just horny — not in the old, addicted, craving-the-whole-dark-package way, but in the plain old healthy, no-relief-in-sight way.
Relative relapses
Read moreNot all relapses are created equal. Some cost you an hour and a difficult conversation; others cost you your life.
The way my mind works
Read moreTwenty-eight pages in one sitting. I don’t know you, person in Miami, but you just made my day.
Sex addiction
Read moreSome thoughts about sex addiction.
Compulsive massage (part 1)
Read moreA granular deconstruction of the ritual of visiting massage parlors — from the craving, to the wave of inevitability, to the Blackberry full of taxonomies.
Melancholy moanings
Read moreWhen I wanted something, I had to have it — not out of weakness, but out of confusion.
Quick note on redheads
Read moreI don’t usually obsess over a type, but right now, I need a pale, freckled, busty redhead like I need air.
Peak experiences, peak fantasies
Read moreBad science, good questions, and the hottest sexual experience I can remember — one I wish I could forget.
Envy
Read moreT had a date. I stayed home, meditated, and sat with the ugly progression of emotions that followed.
Shame
Read moreI was raised in shame, and lived most of my life there. I’m finding my way out, slowly.
On t (part 1)
Read moreThis blog creates a distorted picture of me as a hypersexual free agent. The truth is far more complicated, and far more interesting, and it starts with T.
Questions about swing clubs, and le trapeze
Read moreA reader has questions about Le Trapeze, sex addiction, and going to a swing club while pregnant. I have answers.
On strip clubs
Read moreStrip clubs, sex addiction, smugness, and a visit to New York Dolls.
Four ways of looking at jealousy (apologies to wallace stevens)
Read moreJealousy, for me, boils down to the fear that I don’t exist — and that a woman holds the power to confirm it.
Further thoughts on creep shots
Read moreIn which I decide that maybe, just maybe, taking non-consensual photos of people might be problematic. Thanks to the thoughtful comments of readers of this blog.
On blogging, and my narcissism
Read moreMy first impulse, when I learn I’ve hurt someone, is narcissistic: I’m less upset about the pain I caused than about being perceived as wrong.
Sex tips for the repressed – part 1
Read moreNot the sex tips you’ll find everywhere else — these are for people trapped in shame, not people looking to spice things up in the bedroom.
