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Ruts and different pages
Read moreRuts are underrated. Being on different pages — that’s the real problem.
Gripe to me
Read moreTell me what you don’t like. I’ll listen.
Seven-letter words
Read moreA friend challenges me to stop using words of seven letters or more. I’m already failing.
Do you know me?
Read moreYou know what I choose to show you, and almost nothing else.
Sex work
Read moreAmong the dozens of women I encountered, what struck me most was the enormous variety — and what that taught me about sex work as a category, not a thing.
Male sexual violence
Read moreWe men are like a kid running with scissors: irresponsible and dangerous.
Terminology (ii)
Read moreA reader asked me to define narcissism. I’m happy to oblige — it’s a word I know intimately.
Terminology (i)
Read moreA glossary of sorts — what I actually mean when I say “compulsion” and “addiction,” and why the distinction matters more than you might think.
