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Sofia
Read moreI’ve never met Sofia, but I know her body — in fragments, in parts — better than I know most faces I see every day.
Tinder strategies, part 1 – swiping
Read moreMy three approaches to swiping on Tinder, from mindless to attentive — none of which, it turns out, makes much difference.
Tinder advice
Read moreA guy with a rule-violating Tinder profile offers unsolicited advice to women about theirs.
A brief meeting in a coffee shop
Read moreA brief meeting, a direct question, and an unsurprising disappointment.
Desire as a public good
Read moreThe things I want from the women in my life are remarkably consistent, and that consistency can feel, to each of them, like a diminishment.
Paean
Read moreA woman at a conference, chewing gum, selling to dentists’ offices, in linen pants that hug her slightly big but unquestionably delicious ass.
Logistics
Read moreThe unsexy truth about how I schedule sex.
More on luna
Read moreLuna scares me — she’s too hot, too smart, too snarky, and my desire for her is so visceral it makes me stupid and vulnerable in ways I don’t write about well.
Luna
Read moreI meet, and prepare to use, Luna.
Meet the amazon
Read moreThe Amazon gives me an awesome blowjob – her mouth is like a warm cave of jello, with soft pillows lining the walls.
Tinder date
Read moreShe’s tall, toned, and joyously kinky — and our date got me thinking about shame, its absence, and why I need it lurking somewhere nearby for sex to mean anything at all.
Snapchat
Read moreWhen you send me a picture, you give me a gift. When you send it on Snapchat, you show me a gift — and then take it back.
Paean
Read moreA new woman. Blonde, full-lipped, slender, smart, demanding. I have high hopes.
Astrology
Read moreA beautiful woman from Tinder tried to convert me. Not to her bed, sadly, but to astrology.
Happy holiday weekend
Read moreOff for the weekend. Don’t take my silence personally — I’ll be back, and so will Tinder.
Update on sofia (virtual jealousy)
Read moreSofia’s pussy used to be mine. Now it’s not — or not entirely. The story of how that happened, and how we both feel about it.
Discovering tinder
Read moreDesigned by addiction researchers, populated by women whose clits throb at lunch — Tinder may be my dream app.
Advice (solicited)
Read moreA sexy young bartender asks me for marriage advice. My first instincts are not, shall we say, helpful. But then I get serious.
Paean
Read moreA tiny, gorgeous, engaged bartender asked me for marriage advice. I gave her some. But mostly, I just stared.
Two more dissolutes – may
Read moreHy and I swap blog recommendations again — this month, I’m drawn to the cold, almost sociopathic detachment of a john in Amsterdam, and to the sharp voices of sex workers writing about their own lives.
