Rejection

She’s very, very sexy. Long, flowing, curly, thick, lustrous black hair. Early on, she told me she was proud of her hair and she has every right to be. It’s very sexy. She can count the number of partners she’s…

I wrote this message today. This exemplifies how, I think, I don’t use women: I think I need, sadly, to put an end to this. This is one of those things where I have to trust my gut. I can’t…

I had a series of interactions the other day with a lovely, gorgeous young lady on Tinder. Very quickly, our chat escalated. She was sending me pictures of her gorgeous body, posed precisely as I requested. In a matter of…

Today featured three micro-rejections. Nothing big. Well, that’s not quite true: once upon a time, all three would have qualified as big. But today, none feels that big. Two, by women in a sexual context. One, by a woman in…

I wrote about how deftly Tinder handles rejection in my original paean to the app. If you haven’t used Tinder, there are two possible moments of rejection – before you’ve ever interacted with someone, and after. Before you interact with…

I’ve written lots about rejection, but always about what it’s like for me to be rejected. Recently, several people have asked me a bit about rejection in the opposite direction, what it’s like when I reject people, whether virtually –…

So I feel like this email is a little overdue…but I was really hoping I wouldn’t have to write it. I’m self conscious about it, but as I woke up… and saw your email, I realized if there was anyone…

I owe Angela an apology. I imagined she had fucked “two or six guys” in the time since I was lucky enough to have my fun with her. And I called her a “slut.” The latter, calling her a “slut,”…

I was rejected today. Not by a woman, but in a completely non-sexual, comprehensive, totalizing – and damning – way. It’s striking to me – not new(s), but still striking – how powerful is my reflex in an instance like…

Monogamous people don’t often have the experience of being rejected by new interests. This is a particularly comfortable, appealing aspect of monogamy, but I’m not convinced it’s “better.” The other night, a hottie from whom I hoped to collect a…