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Musing
Thinks I think
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Thirsty
Read morePre-teen girls taught me a new word at dinner. I like it. I’m thirsty.
I’ve been wondering….
Read moreHow many of us are more than one person online, and why isn’t anyone studying this?
Two flavors of shame
Read moreTwo flavors of shame — and neither is better, neither is harder.
Cultural differences
Read moreI imagined, for just a nanosecond, outing myself as non-monogamous to a table of straight professionals. The moment passed.
Thoughts on what feels good (getting vs. having #3,245)
Read moreThe getting feels better than the having — and that realization explains more about me than I’m entirely comfortable with.
N. likes
Read moreA partial catalog of things I like, and a clue to my name.
Thought for the evening
Read moreA reminder I need, again and again.
Harm and destruction
Read moreThe only destruction I hope to do is situational, welcome, perhaps metaphorical.
Sex and aggression
Read moreFucking has never come naturally to me — it requires an aggression I’ve long kept at bay. Lately, though, something’s shifting.
Apologies and sociopaths
Read moreI keep returning to the same dry well, hoping the people least capable of empathy will somehow deliver it.