Down the busy block from Baruch College – an undergraduate school of CUNY – in a residential neighborhood of no distinguishable character, the Carlton Arms (or “Artbreak Hotel”) sits. It feels seedy as you approach the locked front door and buzz for…

This is New York’s preeminent hourly hotel. Their business is hourly, not daily. Their web site proclaims that they are “your rendezvous for romance.”  There’s no pretense it’s otherwise, no shame or secrecy in what they are. Their rates are…

There’s nothing like an hourly hotel.  When you walk into such a place, when you greet a clerk and ask if they have a room “for a couple of hours,” it’s an unusual moment:  you’re looking in the eyes of…

Is that what you say? What is it that you say when a non-poly guy, whose wife you’ve been seeing for months – with his blessing, or at least, acquiescence – wants to talk? And what do you write about it…

You already met her once, in Metrazur.  But this is when I met her. Her OKCupid profile was tantalizing, marking her as hot, sexually adventurous, and oh-so-smart. Her reading list was dotted with French theorists. Her writing was elegant, careful,…

I’ve written before about privacy and secrecy, particularly as regards parenting.  I’m once again wondering about it. I hate the idea of having secrets, of our kid’s growing up and feeling he was misled about anything.  The lines between lying,…

“Whoever told you life is fair?”  My grandmother used to say this to me.  She was right. One of the joys and sorrows of “swinging,” or polyamory, or whatever you want to call this dissolute life I lead, is that…

Her gig as my “secretary” continued for some time.  I would instruct her intricately in terms of what to wear.  She would follow instructions to the tee.  She would be sweet, charming, and almost affectless.  I tried for a while…

In the world of “sex addiction recovery,” there is a concept called “custody of the eyes.”  I believe this is a Catholic concept.  What it boils down to is, “Don’t look at hot chicks (or dudes) on the street.”  Members…

I know you have your kids, and are busy, but in advance of our “date,” I would appreciate the following: 1) To the extent plausible/possible, please set a date and let me know when it will be. 2) Please lay…