Anger

I’m in pain, with little hope of relief. Ever. And it seems to be producing some intense emotions in me.

What my anger feels like, what it does.

Cande gave me a very thorough comment in response to a very terse post of mine. I aspire to respond to all the parts of it in time. But I thought I’d just start at the top. She wrote (I’m…

If I’m honest, “rough sex” confuses me. I’m capable of rough-ish sex. I can spank, slap, throw around, etc. But truth is, it goes against everything in my soul to do so, and I’m slightly baffled by the whole thing.…

“You really are difficult,” Sofia wrote to me. She’s right, of course. We were talking about how I respond to the sensation of being desired.

Emotions are like colors: there are just a few that give rise to the entire palette of emotion. Many people think that anger is one of these “primary emotions.” This isn’t my experience. Anger isn’t a primary emotion for me.…

I often mention it as an aside, and readers often ask me about it, both in the comments and, more often, in e-mails. So here’s a little run-down on what meditation is for me, how I do it, what I…

We men are like a kid running with scissors: irresponsible and dangerous.

People speak of forgiveness’s being “granted” or “withheld”; of people “seeking” it or even “earning” it. These usages seem wrong to me. Forgiveness is one of those things, like love, or hunger, or belief, that happen to us, rather than…

I’ve written about jealousy before, and I fear I have little new to add on the subject, but it’s feeling salient, so I guess I’ll do one of my periodic revisitations of the subject. Here is how I experience jealousy:…