Musing

A.O. Scott’s review of “Shame” in The New York Times alludes to Shakespeare’s Sonnet 129: The expense of spirit in a waste of shame Is lust in action; and till action, lust Is perjured, murderous, bloody, full of blame, Savage,…

Newt Gingrich asked his wife for an open marriage.  Sort of.  Not really.  Really, he asked her not to divorce him while he continued to fuck Callista.  She says he asked her for an open marriage. I’m continually baffled by our…

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The Historian e-mailed me what she called “marginalia” – her contemporaneous journal entries from the weekend in question (almost two years ago now).  I recall everything she writes vividly, but still, it’s jarring to read it in her words –…

Writing about, reading about, fucking I did almost two years ago, I’m reminded of how passive I was when fucking, how far I’ve traveled since then.  (The Historian has just sent me her contemporaneous notes from the time referenced in this…

There’s nothing like an hourly hotel.  When you walk into such a place, when you greet a clerk and ask if they have a room “for a couple of hours,” it’s an unusual moment:  you’re looking in the eyes of…

Is that what you say? What is it that you say when a non-poly guy, whose wife you’ve been seeing for months – with his blessing, or at least, acquiescence – wants to talk? And what do you write about it…

I’ve written before about privacy and secrecy, particularly as regards parenting.  I’m once again wondering about it. I hate the idea of having secrets, of our kid’s growing up and feeling he was misled about anything.  The lines between lying,…

“Whoever told you life is fair?”  My grandmother used to say this to me.  She was right. One of the joys and sorrows of “swinging,” or polyamory, or whatever you want to call this dissolute life I lead, is that…

In the world of “sex addiction recovery,” there is a concept called “custody of the eyes.”  I believe this is a Catholic concept.  What it boils down to is, “Don’t look at hot chicks (or dudes) on the street.”  Members…