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Musing
Thinks I think
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Labels
Read morePeople always want to label themselves: swinger, poly, kinkster, slut. I hate labels.
Distant buddy trust-building, in real time
Read moreI threw S under the bus, and she called me on it. Now I’m earning her trust back, one picture at a time.
My orgasm
Read moreK asked me to describe my orgasm. Turns out it’s as hard as it sounds.
On quickies
Read moreI’ve never been a fan of the quickie — but I’m learning.
Trust and distant buddies (ii)
Read moreEstablishing trust with distant buddies, women I’ve never met and may never meet, can be a challenge.
On distance, virtual relationships, and trust (i)
Read moreLiza asked how my long-distance relationships evolve from tawdry to something more. The answer, it turns out, is slowly, unevenly, and with a certain melancholy.
Porn: seeking vs. finding
Read moreFour modes of porn consumption, only one of which doesn’t leave me feeling like a hungry ghost.
On strip clubs
Read moreStrip clubs, sex addiction, smugness, and a visit to New York Dolls.
Talking dirty
Read moreI love writing dirty. Talking dirty? That’s another story.
The oxford comma
Read moreThe Oxford comma: secret handshake of the monogamish.