Objectification

Playing on the knife’s edge between safety and danger is where the fun is.

I’m finding it challenging to write. My internal censor has been very active lately.

What really makes my cock hard.

Some friends and I have dinner, and objectify the waitress. In a way I’m embarrassed to say I’ve done forever. I see just a little Harvey Weinstein in myself.

There’s a difference. A leer is intrusive, objectifying, nearly hostile. The content is, generally, “I like that. I want that.” Without reference to what that might want. A hungry look, on the other hand, is deeply respectful. Its content is,…

Skirts, dresses, yoga pants, shorts, what’s not to love? When I was in college, there was a sort of mini-trend among certain men to wear skirts. Not in an explicitly transvestite way, these were men who purported not to get…

This is a topic that’s particularly vexing for me. My parents totally bungled it, doing far worse than saying nothing, and instead, leaving me with a legacy of muddled confusion and zero self-confidence. Even in my forties, I often find…