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Monogamish sex
Read moreT and I find ourselves with rare, kid-free hours, and spend them in a tangle of laptops, oral sex, emailed fantasies, and the complicated arithmetic of compersion.
Ethical non-monogamy
Read moreThere’s a tendency to imagine some objective standard of ethical behavior against which we should measure others. I’m not buying it.
Paying for it
Read moreA graphic novel about being a john, found on a neighbor’s doorstep — and what it gets right, and wrong, about the humanity of paying for sex.
Noms de…
Read moreNoms de whatever: the evolution from hiding behind “Grey” to being liberated by “N. Likes.”
Creepshot
Read moreI saw her, and I couldn’t not look.
Ruthlessness
Read moreSex is best when we use one another ruthlessly, and that’s precisely why it’s so hard with the people we love most.
Rejection
Read moreShe wanted the offer, not the items on offer.
Aborted creep shot (subway platform, real time)
Read moreA guy tries to pick up a beautiful woman on a subway platform. I watch it all happen, in real time.
Swinging and male bisexuality
Read moreChecking the “bi-curious” box on a swingers site: half the men think you’re going to rape them, the other half wish you would.
Creep shots
Read moreTwo women, described in the way only a creep would.
Special, redux
Read moreThe perils of being a slut who writes about it: everyone feels special to me, but the blog makes everyone look the same.
Blowjobs, blowjobs, blowjobs….
Read moreCraigsList, hotel rooms, and the education of a sexually self-aware man, one blowjob at a time.
Update on l
Read moreL and I haven’t fucked since January, and I miss everything — the strip clubs, the hourly hotels, the parking lots, the bathroom stalls, and the crazy banter in between.
Broken glasses
Read moreA night out with a new couple gets off to an inauspicious start.
Boundaries
Read moreFor me, transgression has never been the point. If anything, it’s a damper on my joy.
My origin myth, continued
Read moreLiza asks the question this blog can never fully answer: how do you get from twelve years of secret cheating to a healthy open marriage with the same woman?
Monogamish
Read moreL and her husband are finding their way through the complicated terrain of non-monogamy, and I miss her while they do.
Unhappy ending?
Read moreSometimes not fucking someone is the most dominant thing you can do.
Money for nothing and the chicks for free?
Read moreMy relationship to money and desire, and the ingenious, self-defeating system I built to get the former without risking the latter.
Monogamy and its discontents
Read moreNewt Gingrich, open marriage, and some things you and I both know but rarely say out loud.
