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Paean
Read moreA short, curvy woman on the subway, and everything I noticed.
Paean
Read moreShe’s standing at the pastry case, but she’s not just evaluating pastries.
Truth and memory at a sex party (stag at a sex party, part 2)
Read moreMemory is unreliable. Sex parties, doubly so.
Stag at a sex party, part 1
Read moreMy first time at a sex party was a letdown. My most recent time, I arrived in a very different place.
Online dating and personals
Read moreWe don’t know what we want nearly as well as we think we do.
Elegy for p (first in a series)
Read moreShe disappeared slowly, then all at once. I miss her.
Paean
Read moreA woman in a peach sun dress.
Haiku paean
Read moreFour haiku for a redhead on a train.
Paean
Read moreA love song to a woman on the subway.
Self-destruction
Read moreShe stood me up two nights in a row, and two nights in a row, I let her. This isn’t a complaint about her — it’s an observation about me.
On the swingset
Read moreNeighborhood swinging, birthday party gossip, and the rules of the club — explained over grilled chicken, with a two-year-old on someone’s knee.
Paean
Read moreA woman on the street stops me in my tracks.
Paying for it, revisited
Read moreIn my moments of greatest pain, what I want isn’t sex — it’s sex I’m paying for. What the fuck is that about?
Room full of talent (three paeans)
Read moreThree women, one room, and work I’m not getting done.
Paean
Read moreWhere am I supposed to look when she crosses her legs?
A paean
Read moreAn unremarkable woman on the train. Except.
Creep shot
Read moreTwenty minutes, three feet, and not a single glance.
A rookie mistake
Read moreThinking someone could just explain away my compulsive sexual behavior was the first of many things I got wrong. The list of things I got wrong is long.
Creep shot
Read moreI wouldn’t like her. But she’s fun to look at.
Sex work
Read moreAmong the dozens of women I encountered, what struck me most was the enormous variety — and what that taught me about sex work as a category, not a thing.