Validation

Thinking someone could just explain away my compulsive sexual behavior was the first of many things I got wrong. The list of things I got wrong is long.

Desire is to getting as love is to having. And getting is always better than having.

Joe Orton, public restrooms, and what I actually want when I ask a woman to spread her legs for me in a hotel bar.

Someone asked me what I know about cock worship, and I had a lot to say.

A shamelessly inspired request, and a meditation on what makes a picture — or an orgasm — actually hot.

People always want to label themselves: swinger, poly, kinkster, slut. I hate labels.

A tiny frisson of validation.

It’s not the fear of losing her. It’s the fear of being rendered worthless by whoever I lose her to.

Sex at Dawn told me what I wanted to hear, which is exactly why I didn’t trust it.