Advice

Judge a book by its cover? First impressions matter?

A woman asks me for sex toy advice. I advise her to ask a person with a vagina. And then, go ahead and give my answer.

My questions mostly regard what appears to be your very successful pastime as a serial lover of many other hot, sexual women. I haven’t read all of your essays yet, but I’m struck by how smart and emotionally/intellectually sophisticated so…

“I ran across your blog and was compelled to write you. I was taken back by your confidence and the ability you have to entertain many relationships. it opened my eyes. I am a normal guy struggling with a submissive…

I was in a sexless relationship for too long and was beginning to believe I wasn’t interested in sex and became insecure about my sexuality and seductive abilities. I have since been reawakened and am discovering more of what I…

I’ve entered into a relationship. It’s great. It hits every level of satisfaction except sexually. I’m frustrated and unsure of where to go from here…. It’s unsatisfying for both of us. To me, it feels forced. He is extremely attractive..a…

On three recent occasions, people have described me as “an admitted sex addict,” or some variant of that. Close readers of this blog know that my thinking on sex addiction, and on my relationship to it, is more nuanced (or…

I’m a guy with an unusual, rule-violating Tinder profile. My profile picture is my husky, the wolfish creature at the top of this page (if you’re not on a phone). My other pics? Hotness culled from my Tumblr (stolen from…

“We’re getting married. We haven’t set a date yet, but it’s more than a year off. Do you have any advice?” I have lots of advice. For this sexy young bartender, in particular, I’d say: 1) You really really should…