Musing

Policy:  Don’t travel to fuck someone you haven’t met. Yesterday, as T was reading over the e-mails and chats I’ve been exchanging with the woman I’ll call “P,” T shook her head admiringly and said, “I think you should go…

L has lamented (chuckled at?) – or is it lamented (chuckled at?) – my “flock of tweeties.”  Currently, there are exactly three women with whom I regularly exchange sexy e-mail.  One, I’ve been doing it with for about a year. …

I saw the following question on Formspring the other day, asked by Harper Eliot, the former Lady Grinning Soul, and author of the terrific, newly relocated blog “It Girl. Rag Doll”: If you’re sleeping with someone whose partner doesn’t know,…

Long before 50 Shades of Grey made Mr. Grey famous the world over (as a dom in a piece of dreck, best I can tell – I haven’t read the book), I was known as Mr. Grey.  Grey, or occasionally…

(Warning: this post has nothing to do with sex. Don’t read on if you’re not interested in the non-sexy parts of this blog. This is a pure-and-simple journey into my psyche.) These three things suck: 1)  Wanting what I don’t…

We all use one another. In my experience, sex is at its best when we’re totally selfish – when we unapologetically pursue our own desires.  I’m not saying sex is best for me when I unapologetically pursue my own desires…

Eyes or lips? Give or get? Fuck or be fucked? Direct or indirect? Implicit or explicit? Teach or learn? Memory or fantasy? New or old? Teased or sated?

This is just a musing, or perhaps a rant:  we have a profile on SLS (the dominant “swingers” dating site, at least in my city).  Until today, we were both listed as “bi-curious.”  Now, to be clear, I’m straight.  I…

My sister blogger, Liza, recently tweeted about this super-hot scene in which James Deen goes down on Nicole Ray.  It’s pretty perfect, to my mind (and, judging from the Twitter-verse, to the minds of a number of ladies who were…

I write rough. I write about “fucking faces,” and so on. But I’ve come to notice that there’s a distance between what happens in my sex life and how I write about it, and wherever there are such differences, I…