Musing

It’s Thanksgiving, here in the US, and I’m genuinely thankful for much: 1. Above all, family: nuclear AND extended. We all are crazy, but I truly love my family. 2. Friends: I’m lucky to have tremendous, awesome friends, both in…

I sat in Starbucks putting the final touches on a gift for T. A woman ran in and in a frenzied, panicked voice, screamed, “Is there a doctor in here? Is there a nurse in here? Is there a doctor…

Sometimes, events in one’s life have a heft, a magnitude, an awesomeness, such that it simply feels inconceivable that life continues for others, untouched. This can be because of something wonderful – the birth of a child – or something…

As I lay back, your mouth on my cock, my head on the pillow, I think, “Why am I so fucking lazy?” It’s simply true that, for all of my love of eating pussy, given my druthers, I would simply…

I try to write soul-searching, introspective exploration of my sexuality. I like reading others embarked on the same project. Jillian Keenan has written a terrific, honest exploration of her appetite for spanking in, of all places, The New York Times.…

People don’t, generally, go to sex blogs (and yes, I think that for the most part, this is a sex blog) to read the mundane details of their authors’ lives. Because the truth is, the mundane details of authors’ lives…

I tend not to write too explicitly about politics, though I suspect anyone who reads this blog can imagine roughly where I stand. But I have a thought on abortion that feels so powerfully like common sense to me, but…

One of the challenges of swinging, or polyamory, or non-monogamy, or monogamish-ness, is the simple impossibility of symmetry. I just started to write a post on the subject – about how sometimes T gets more of what she wants than…

A while back, I asked for topic suggestions – either things about which I’ve written that you enjoy reading, or suggestions for new topics. My friend, Omniwhore (who writes a great blog, btw), wrote that he would be interested to…

I’ve previously asked about how you like to be fingered, about how you like your breasts handled. Today, I’m wondering…. When I’m going down on you, what would you like? Would you like to be blindfolded? Restrained? Just your hands?…