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In which I am schooled by two very sexy baristas.

Any particular scenes? Why? I was asked this recently by a woman who, I hope, will not remain nameless. And I responded with two movies, one scene each. They both appeared in 1986, a crucial year in the development of…

Luna said this to me explicitly. Others have said it more implicitly. The type of woman with whom I interact most effortlessly, most rewardingly – and mutually so – inspires me to attend to her, and responds to my attention…

What is the definition of “dominant”? Well, I don’t really give a fuck. The salient question is, “What does my dominance look like?”

One white. One black. The dresses are plain, short, of the sort sold by the Gap, or American Apparel. Nothing special, but form-fitting, flattering. Each dress adorns a woman wearing nothing else, save plain cotton boyshorts in the same color…

We have some sacred cows – beliefs that are so sacrosanct that we simply presume everyone shares them. Sometimes it feels like “progress” is the gradual elimination of those sacred cows. (Women’s suffrage, civil rights, marriage equality, rampant agnosticism all…

A big part of what the world reads as submission, I read as respect. And not just respect of the sort a sub should show a dom, but the sort of respect we all should (I always aspire to) show…

I want it to work. I really do. But so far, if it does work, it doesn’t work for me. The idea’s sort of cool, if sort of creepy: it’s sort of like Tinder, but, instead of swiping based on…

I resolve, in 2015: To be more present for every aspect of my life. My family, my friends, my work, my writing, my studies, my leisure, my sexual partners. You name it. If it’s a part of my life, I…

I’m a very lucky man, in many ways. One of those ways is that I seem consistently able to connect with beautiful women who delight in, who get off on, sending me highly personalized porn. Sometimes, it’s a photo. Sometimes,…