2012

As I gained control of my out-of-control behavior, as I discovered an ability to accept my desires and at the same time not act on them, I found myself increasingly in conflict with the philosophy of the 12-step programs, and…

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Chemistry‘s closest analog among the parties and clubs I’ve discussed is OneLegUp.  Like OLU, Chemistry is a sensuous, sumptuous, occasional affair.  I’ve only been to one, but definitely intend to return.  The night we went, it was in a loft…

We had a plumbing fiasco the other night. I probably could have fixed it myself but the water damage was extensive enough that I wanted to be able to sure someone if it want fixed right. So I called a…

I hadn’t seen the movie.  I placed a CraigsList ad strikingly similar to the one James Spader might have used to recruit Maggie Gyllenhaal as his new amanuensis.  I placed it in the “Erotic Services” section (RIP).  I got a…

In the world of twelve-step programs, there’s a ubiquitous construct:  the “inner addict.”  The inner addict is a sort of alter ego, a misanthropic, narcissistic Mr. Hyde to our better, more welcome sense of ourselves as a benevolent Dr. Jekyll.…

Ddevious Delights is the party I’ve been to the most.  It’s not perfect, by any stretch, but it’s in many ways the closest to something that I find compelling/comfortable.  Le Trapeze is open Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday nights.  BCD,…

OneLegUp has several different kinds of parties – they have “Eat-In” soirees, “Take-Out,” and “Tastings.”  Eat-in means, well, that you might well eat someone else in the party.  Take-out means, you take whom you meet out.  And “Tastings” are by…

I’ve been to two BCD events.  One was in a health club in Jersey City (the promotion for the party had left us under the impression it would be in Manhattan, but neither of us is a lawyer – had…

What is it about these words, “lover” and “play”? For me, they’re (almost) always a turn-off.  Not just a turn-off.  A dispositive, not-gonna-go-there turn-off. I have a bunch of associations with the words, none positive, and for better or for…