Musing

Definitions: Slut: a person who sleeps with more people than I do. Slut: a person who sleeps with my friends, but not with me. Slut: a person who sleeps with more people than most. What’s your definition? Up above, on…

I’ve been thinking about guilt.  (I often do – it’s an interesting subject to me.) What is guilt? When I say, “I feel guilty about how I treated her,” what do I mean? Do I mean, “If I had it…

How does an otherwise honorable person lie? And not a little white lie, but the kind of major, character-defining lie that any of us who is, or has been, a cheating piece of shit (CPOS), has told the people we…

You are one of my gurus. Probably, the one who has influenced me most. And I’m a guy with some real gurus. You are great, give great sex and relationship advice, and write great books (The Kid may well be…

What is it about burlesque that I don’t like? I know I’m supposed to like it. It’s what we intelligent, feminist, sex-positive people are supposed to want our stripping ladies (and gents) to look like, to do. The gradual, oh-so-artful,…

“Have you read Love and Kink, by Guy New York?” “No, should I?” “Sooooo good…. Shocked at how good it was.” “But here’s the problem: I just don’t get turned on reading something by someone I can’t imagine fucking.” This…

I’ve written about jealousy before, and I fear I have little new to add on the subject, but it’s feeling salient, so I guess I’ll do one of my periodic revisitations of the subject. Here is how I experience jealousy:…

Here’s an experience.  Perhaps you’ve had it.  Me?  It happens to me shockingly often. I write something.  It might be a general something.  It might be a tweet or “subtweet.”  Maybe it’s a little sarcastic.  More often, it’s not.  More…

Liza wrote the other day about some problems she’s been having, both with sex and with writing.  (And then, promptly, followed with a bunch of characteristically great posts, about burlesque, about gentle sex with her husband and the smell of…

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