Musing

Privacy is good, secrets are bad, at least for me. There’s a 12-step saying – when you’re doing well, your addict is doing pushups in your basement. For me, secrets are a sure-fire way to strengthen “my addict.” Worse, they’re…

People speak of forgiveness’s being “granted” or “withheld”; of people “seeking” it or even “earning” it. These usages seem wrong to me. Forgiveness is one of those things, like love, or hunger, or belief, that happen to us, rather than…

Can be summarized thus: 1) Some actions never can, or should, be forgiven by those affected by them. 2) No actions are so tainting that they remove the possibility of a redemptive, redeemed existence, starting from today.

[Warning: another, non-sexy, somewhat pensive post.] Are some sins unforgiveable? Some people irredeemable? I’ve been thinking about this question lately. I don’t like going to Germany. I’ve been there a few times, and every time, I’m haunted by twin thoughts:…

“You know that look a woman gets in her eyes when she wants sex?  Me neither.” – Steve Martin “Attraction + Obstacles = Excitement” – Jack Morin, Ph.D. (that’s how he lists his name in his books – but it…

Non-sexy post: warning. Don’t click through if you don’t want to read about trauma.

Earlier today, I wrote about suffering from an overwhelming, distracting horniness. A faithful reader wrote, asking, essentially, why don’t I just jerk off? “Doesn’t masturbating,” she asked, “take care of the ‘urges’?” Well, first of all, I wasn’t in a…

I’m just horny. Don’t get me wrong – I think about sex a lot – probably more than the average bear. My history as a “sex addict,” my present as a hypersexual sex blogger and poly/slutty/swinging horndog pretty much make…

Ten days ago, one of my favorite bloggers – Girl on the Net – wrote about strip clubs. She’s writing from a different perspective (straight female) in a different country (the UK, I believe). She refutes a few myths that…

Women’s breasts are so different. Are yours sensitive? Do you want me to squeeze them, pinch them, suck them, bite them? Do you want me to trace my finger, my tongue, lightly around your nipple? To flick it? Lick it?…