Musing

They don’t turn me on — but I understand them better than you might think.

What’s hidden is so much hotter than what’s revealed.

Gossip made me feel icky. I wish I could say that’s because I’m above it.

Why “domestic violence” is the wrong way to talk about male family brutality — and compassion may be the only weapon worth using.

My thinking about sex addiction is evolving — the neuroscience is more interesting, and the sex addiction industrial complex more bankrupt, than I previously understood.

We repeat traumas because we want to. Freud taught me that, and my analyst helped me see it, and I’m still not done with it.

A pretty woman on the stairs, a tingle in my cock, and the long road from wanting more to wanting enough.

Orgasms are emotional points of inflection in time. What happens to you right after you cum?

In my moments of greatest pain, what I want isn’t sex — it’s sex I’m paying for. What the fuck is that about?

A retraction, a clarification, and an invitation.