2014

Talking to interesting, fun, hot women in bars. I never did it before the last six months or so. I have twice in the last three days. No expectations, not even any real hopes. Just pure fun.

I’m right-handed, but I just noticed that I do a lot of my writing with my left hand lately. I write on my phone a lot. My phone is an Android. (For a variety of reasons, many related to the…

I just discovered that if you go to this page, you can see dozens of the gifs I’ve selected as the hottest on the web. Holy fuck is a screen full of those all at one time hot. Just sayin’.

UPS had a slogan for a while – “Moving at the speed of business.” Back in a previous life, one of my greatest advantages in the world of work was my speed. If you e-mailed me, I e-mailed you back.…

1. Shit. I forgot my wallet. No credit cards. No ID. No cash. V has to pay for everything. Not very dom-ly. 2. Her text was right. This bar sucks. Her thigh-highs are way too sexy for this place. I…

Monogamy: Because of who you are, I won’t sleep with anyone else. If this involves sacrifice, so be it. Part of what I offer you is the promise that, to the extent I desire others, or other than what you…

T and I go out, from time to time, on dates with other couples. Mostly, these have been people we’ve met through CraigsList. Occasionally, it’s been people we’ve met through OKCupid. These sorts of connections rarely pan out. Our very…

Over the last couple of years, I’ve had a few distant buddies. Some have been more intense than others. Some have been people with whom I’ve exchanged, or from whom I’ve received, photographs. Some have been full-on virtual relationships. And…

Every so often, I get an e-mail like this: Hi N, I was going to post this on your blog, but wondered if it was too personal… I have limited experience with D/s relationships, but fantasize constantly. Just read your…

We straight men are supposed to prefer women in heels. “Heels do wonderful things for women’s calves,” we are told, “not to mention their asses.” And to be sure, they do. But heels also conjure up lots of associations for…