Addiction

If you lack in time management skills, consider hiring an addict to coach you. Addicts are, almost universally, masters. We have to be. To spend as much time as we want, as we need, pursuing our drug/behavior of choice, we…

Heads up. My thoughts about sex addiction are evolving. Close readers of this blog know that I’ve struggled a bit with this question. I have written that, while there’s no such thing as sex addiction, I’m indistinguishable from an addict…

I’ve written a fair amount about the concept of sex addiction. Is it real? Can one be addicted to sex? What does “recovery” look like? Here are a few of my more substantive posts on the question. (My thinking on…

I used to imagine that there was a simple explanation. To anything. To everything. I imagined, for example, that there was a simple explanation for my out-of-control sexual behavior. I thought someone (my shrink?) could just tell it to me,…

I throw around words in highly specific ways in reference to myself, and in recent days, in a couple of different conversations, I’ve realized that I’m not always clear about what I mean. Without any claim to “correctness” or “accuracy”…

Pubescent girls affect me in ways I wish they didn’t. Here are some thoughts about all that.

Even more than sex, or commercial sex, during my days of “addiction,” I was compelled by web sites about sex, web sites that promised sex. There are a few categories of these, ranging from the utopian ones that promise free…

Privacy is good, secrets are bad, at least for me. There’s a 12-step saying – when you’re doing well, your addict is doing pushups in your basement. For me, secrets are a sure-fire way to strengthen “my addict.” Worse, they’re…