Musing

Could you describe your orgasms for me? Can I be honest? I’ve asked guys this question before (boyfriends and friends), and the answer is always disappointing. No pressure or anything, but impress me. Um.  This is the kind of question…

I’ve never been a fan of the quickie. I don’t know that I ever actually had a quickie before this. And I’ve been replaying the whole thing in my head since that fuck. My usual way may be rough, or…

Establishing trust with distant buddies, women I’ve never met and may never meet, can be a challenge.

I was chatting the other day with Liza, and she asked me about the evolution of my “distant buddy” relationships – how they have started, what their progression has been, and, in particular, how they have grown from being purely…

There are a couple of different forms my porn-surfing takes: 1)  Purposeful: I’m going to rub one out, and I want visual stimulation. In this instance, typically, I watch a movie that I’ve downloaded from a favorite site.  As I’ve…

Back in the day, I spent untold hours in strip clubs.  I’ve written about it here and here.  In my “sober” life – in the time since then, I’ve spent almost no time in strip clubs.  Dan Savage once said,…

Some months ago, Liza and I were chatting about writing ideas, and I suggested she write about something that turns most people on, but that doesn’t work for her.  I think that the post that followed was this one, but I’m…

You know it – it’s that “optional” comma at the end of a list.  “I went to the bar last night with Jim, John, and Sue.”  It’s that comma between “John” and “and.” There’s not a “correct” answer as to…

When the Anthony Weiner scandal came down a while back, I participated in a conversation among some septuagenarian men about the whole thing. There were gay and straight participants in the conversation, and unanimity on one point: Weiner must be…

In a conversation with a wise man once, I distinguished between dominance and submission, on the one hand, and sadism and masochism, on the other. He scoffed at this distinction, saying the two/four were not even two sides of the…