Musing

The other day, I wrote a bit about the trajectory of most of the relationships I had during my CPOS days, when I was routinely paying for sex. Today, I don’t pay for sex. (As with all things, the truth…

In a couple of recent posts, I’ve written about “paid dating,” or “compensated dating.” I have a tag that is “commercial sex.” A reader asked if I wasn’t just sugar-coating what is, in fact, prostitution, by using other words. The…

I haven’t addressed this burning question. A while back, the Breeder did. He hates 69ing. And it got me to thinking. At the time, I started a post on the subject, but more pressing matters distracted me, and I never…

A couple of the comments on my recent post on paid dating (a.k.a. prostitution) took me to task for “haggling” on a “date.” I fear I was unclear about either the general way such dates work, or what happened on…

I had a couple more thoughts after writing this post. First, I realize that in one little phrase – “if we hit it off” – I skipped over a giant portion of the process of reaching a mutually beneficial arrangement.…

I’ve been thinking about the phenomenon of relapses, of slips, among addicts. It’s a very rare addict who doesn’t have a slip (or seven) on the road to recovery. I was lucky enough that my “addiction” was to a behavior,…

Some time ago, I wrote a bit about how trust evolves in virtual relationships. I thought I’d write a bit about how it evolves in commercial sex (or at least, how it did for me), since I suspect that’s actually an…

A friend writes. She’s trying to get her boyfriend to be rougher with her, but “he doesn’t seem to get it.” She wants to be spanked, but “he hasn’t really done so.” He says it’s because of his roommates, because…

Some thoughts about sex addiction.

I’ve written a fair amount about my favorite fantasy and my fondest sexual memory (which together provide all sorts of information as to what Jack Morin, Ph.D. (that’s apparently his name), the author of The Erotic Mind, calls my “core…