Musing

A woman on Tinder tells me I’m intimidating. This is too bad — for both of us.

The word “no” is poison to me — not because I don’t respect your limits, but because I need you to find another way to draw them.

It’s not the transgressive things I’ve done that upset people most — it’s the thoughts I’ve been honest enough to say out loud.

What I mean by “responsive” isn’t what you think I mean.

What I really mean when I say I want you to do as I ask.

Compliance is a turn-on. Imperfect compliance is a turn-off. Don’t make me ask twice.

I don’t call myself a sex addict, though others seem happy to do it for me. A fellow blogger asks whether her own obsessive thinking about sex makes her one too — and I have some thoughts.

Poof. She was simply gone from my list. The kids today….

I abhor drama. So why does it keep finding me?

Adam Phillips, on the futility of sexual jealousy.