December 2013

The massage parlor offers certainty. The bar offers something better, but almost certainly not.

Two principles I try to remember: it’s almost always more useful to ask what *we* did than what *you* did, and more useful to think about what *I* can change than what *you* should.

My grammar, you’ll have noticed, is perfect. My experience with a recent editor, not so much.

Forget the quizzes — if your gut says something’s wrong, it is. Here’s what I actually find useful instead.

You’ve heard it before. But you’re wet, and you’re dressed as I asked, and you don’t see me yet.

Misogynist lyrics, rape porn, Robin Thicke, and the difference between censoring desire and changing culture.

A writer, a recovering addict, a TED talker — and my inexplicable, overwhelming physical reaction to her.

Curating the art of the breast shot, one theme at a time.

A woman on the subway, described.

Pre-teen girls taught me a new word at dinner. I like it. I’m thirsty.