Year
2012
496 posts
Happy New Year!
Read moreLast year I posted seven resolutions: 7. To engage in some “high-concept” swinging.6. To throw myself into more multi-partner swinging.5. To have more encounters with multiple women.4. To get pegged.3. To revisit my experience of gay sex.2. To increase my…
Confidence
Read moreA funny note about myself. For the vast majority of my life, rightly or wrongly, I believed that – I created the reality that – the only way a woman would find me attractive was if I paid her. In…
And THIS is (really) the last word on safer sex
Read moreCourtesy of L:
On (my) ego, or, warm nuts
Read moreI’m just a guy, and, as I’ve written before, we men have fragile egos. Without going too deep into my biography, here are some salient facts about me: I was in my late twenties before the first time I (noticed…
I’m your man
Read moreWhen I was a teenager, I remember hearing “Suzanne,” by Leonard Cohen, for the first time. I was haunted – by the sound of Cohen’s voice, by the images in the song. I never became a HUGE fan – I…
A final note on monogamy
Read moreApparently, I underestimated how people would react if I questioned their monogamy. I won’t make that mistake again.
Risk-adjusted returns
Read moreI think that if we compare the risks associated with sex to the rewards it brings us, we’ll find that we do a really poor job of decision-making.
The risks of “monogamy”
Read moreIn which I foolhardily attack other people’s monogamy. And their “monogamy.” By wondering just how many people who think themselves monogamous really are.
Hi, I’m N, and I’m an addict…
Read moreAm I a “sex addict”? Is there such a thing? Is it a meaningful term? One reader delights in calling me a sex addict. What do I have to say about it?
Safer sex, the last installment
Read moreI have a casual attitude toward sexually transmitted infections. And, with one exception, during Bill Clinton’s first term, I’ve never had one.
