Swinging

Oral sex school Three couples Each man spends twenty minutes between the thighs of each woman. Each woman spends twenty minutes between the thighs of each man. As with all my sexual fantasies, nudity is to be avoided, clothes maintained…

See below, but with one modification: Each woman masturbates in proximity to a man, not her partner, who cums on her.

Circle jerks never appealed to me. They seemed like a sort of simultaneously homoerotic and homophobic phenomenon. But now – as a straight, adventurous, adult – the idea of a coed circle jerk – one done with a little taste,…

The men: we (all) wear jeans, tight t-shirts. The women: you (all) wear tiny black dresses, black thongs, black thigh-highs, black shoes.   There are four couples. We’ve never met. We gather for drinks at 9 pm. The men talk…

Join us for a debauched night of fun. We are looking for two other couples. Our intent is to pre-approve one another via e-mail, exchanging only accurate body photos and verbal descriptions, and then to “meet” in a dark bar…

In my New Year’s Resolution post a year ago, and again yesterday, I mentioned “high-concept swinging” as a goal. A couple of readers asked just what I meant by that. Sorry – I was talking to myself when I wrote…

There’s a little “open relationship mini-quiz” that’s been making the internet rounds lately. It showed up here, and here. I thought I’d tackle it as well for your reading pleasure. 1. What insight about open relationships do you wish you…

Dan Savage wrote a column last week arguing, forcefully, that polyamory isn’t a sexual orientation. This seems to me akin to “presenting both sides of the evolution debate,” granting some basic structural plausibility to a ridiculous assertion, the mere speaking aloud…

One of the challenges of swinging, or polyamory, or non-monogamy, or monogamish-ness, is the simple impossibility of symmetry. I just started to write a post on the subject – about how sometimes T gets more of what she wants than…

Continuation of this post, featuring Jen and Mara. So back we went – we picked up our clothes and shuffled out of the dark little room in which we’d begun fucking and sucking and licking one another. Mara apologized to…