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Liza asked how my long-distance relationships evolve from tawdry to something more. The answer, it turns out, is slowly, unevenly, and with a certain melancholy.

Four modes of porn consumption, only one of which doesn’t leave me feeling like a hungry ghost.

The Craigslist ad that started it all — a little self-knowledge, a lot of squats, and two trainers later, I’m in the best shape of my life.

Strip clubs, sex addiction, smugness, and a visit to New York Dolls.

I love writing dirty. Talking dirty? That’s another story.

A little written orientation on the care and feeding of my cock.

The Oxford comma: secret handshake of the monogamish.

The smartest and hottest sex bloggers, under one roof.

A new weekly meme: bring me your sex-related creative output, and I’ll help you share it with the world.