Musing

Last year I posted seven resolutions: 7. To engage in some “high-concept” swinging.6. To throw myself into more multi-partner swinging.5. To have more encounters with multiple women.4. To get pegged.3. To revisit my experience of gay sex.2. To increase my…

A funny note about myself. For the vast majority of my life, rightly or wrongly, I believed that – I created the reality that – the only way a woman would find me attractive was if I paid her. In…

I’m just a guy, and, as I’ve written before, we men have fragile egos. Without going too deep into my biography, here are some salient facts about me: I was in my late twenties before the first time I (noticed…

Apparently, I underestimated how people would react if I questioned their monogamy. I won’t make that mistake again.

I think that if we compare the risks associated with sex to the rewards it brings us, we’ll find that we do a really poor job of decision-making.

In which I foolhardily attack other people’s monogamy. And their “monogamy.” By wondering just how many people who think themselves monogamous really are.

Am I a “sex addict”? Is there such a thing? Is it a meaningful term? One reader delights in calling me a sex addict. What do I have to say about it?

I have a casual attitude toward sexually transmitted infections. And, with one exception, during Bill Clinton’s first term, I’ve never had one.

I have had a lot of sex with a lot of people, some of whom I’ve barely known. I get tested. And I don’t stress. Here’s how I think about the risks of sex.

The only sexually transmitted infection that scares me is HIV. Here’s why.