My cock is not big. When flaccid, it’s tiny. When hard, it’s definitely on the small side of average. I can trick a ruler into saying it’s six inches long, but if I’m honest, it’s shorter than that. And it’s not especially thick, either. A woman with a small hand can pretty easily grip it, no problem.

My cock is circumcised. It’s got a pronounced upward curve. It’s smooth. Its veins and arteries are visible when it’s hard, and it looks a bit like a map. A map of some distant peninsula, I suppose.

In all the years I went to massage parlors, where women know that compliments = tips, no one ever said to me, “Ooh, your cock is so big.” I got other compliments: “You’re so strong, do you work out?” “Your legs are so strong – do you run? Play soccer?” And often, often, “Your cock is so hard.”

But never, never, “Your cock is so big.”

Women often have told me that my cock is “beautiful,” or “pretty.” (Funny – such conventionally feminine words applied to the most masculine thing there is.) That it’s “incredibly fun to suck.” That it’s “built to stimulate the g-spot.”

The upward curve does cause the tip to land in just the right place when fucking, and the size makes it possible to do just about anything a woman might want with her mouth and hands. If you want to learn to deep-throat, mine will not be hard. While I’ve gagged and choked my fair share of women, that’s more to do with my face-fucking technique than with my length or girth.

Somewhere along the line, I think I finally understood that neither of the two extremes we’re told about cock size is right. It’s simply not true that “size doesn’t matter.” Neither is it true that a small cock is, by definition, worse than a big cock. For some, size does matter – and for some, that means smaller is better. For some, size is pretty much the only thing that matters. I recently was talking with a woman who, as a matter of policy, only fucks guys whose cocks are more than eight inches long. Seriously. And an early girlfriend of mine found that, as a matter of her own anatomy, a cock any bigger than mine was, honestly, painful.

When I was younger, I was insecure about my cock. Nowadays, not so much. I understand that tastes vary, that some women want big cocks, that some prefer smaller ones, that some truly don’t care. I get that many women think about cocks like I think about breasts, or pussies: which is to say, I like them. I like almost all of them. And I like the variety among them. I like tiny breasts at least as much as big ones; I like hairy pussies at least as much as trimmed ones; I like long labia lips and short ones; I like sweet pussies and salty ones.

So if my smallish, beautiful, curved cock isn’t your speed, I suppose that’s fine.