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There’s tons of writing out there by sex workers. I’ve linked to some of it. I read, and link to, Maggie McNeill, religiously. She sits in my blogroll, over there on the right. But it’s rare that I read a…

That’s all.

I’ve had more massages than most humans. This is probably true both of “massages” and of massages. The other day, while I was having a massage (as opposed to a “massage”), I found myself thinking – as I have on…

Just sayin’.

This is a topic that’s particularly vexing for me. My parents totally bungled it, doing far worse than saying nothing, and instead, leaving me with a legacy of muddled confusion and zero self-confidence. Even in my forties, I often find…

I hate this word. It implies that one person is letting another do something to her or him. It perpetuates the construction of sex as something that women give to men, that girls let boys have. Don’t get me wrong.…

I use Google Drive. A LOT. And I’ve been enormously frustrated by its refusal to provide any useful tagging/labeling mechanism. Google did more than anyone else to promote the use of tags/labels, of non-hierarchical organization of files and information, in…

I’ve written a bunch in recent days about “the talk.” When most people imagine “the talk,” I think we picture one or two parents awkwardly subjecting a pre-teen or teen to ham-handed and unwelcome parental admonitions and explanations about sex.…

I’ve been writing about the topic of talking about sex with kids, and it occurs to me, porn is kind of a subject unto itself. In one post recommended to me on The Good Men Project, Andrew Smiler, the author,…

When I asked for people’s thoughts, I got a bunch. Here, I’d like just to respond to a couple of things that people posted/suggested: 1) Adam Savage tells the story of talking to his twin boys about the internet at…