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Coffee, months of tension, and then, finally, a late night in which she did everything I asked and I disappeared into the dark.

Two sexy women, two great dates, and two write-ups that made the sex sound less hot than it was. I’m better at desire than satisfaction — on the page, at least.

This.

Esther Perel talks about infidelity without demonizing anyone, and gets it exactly right.

I have strong feelings about Google Inbox, and one fatal flaw involves your nudes.

I can predict the outcome of a date with near-perfect accuracy, which only raises the question of why I sometimes go on the ones I know will be bad.

The things I tend to do, and ask for, as I get to know a woman — and why they matter to me even if they’re not exactly new.

Distance makes the cock grow harder. Sofia and I will never meet, but I refuse to believe that.

A plea for compassion from the man I am to the man I’ll become.

Advice I wish I’d had, or taken, years ago.