Fucking Tinder

Once more, Tinder has cut me off, mid-conversation. Just deactivated my account, preventing me from interacting, consensually, with people.

If you were chatting with me, I didn’t un-match you. Tinder deactivated my account. I’m easy to find on the “contact me” page here.

Contact me!

12 comments

  1. I’ve been wondering how well married men do on Tinder, just never had the time to set up an account and test the waters. I’m going to need to click your Tinder tag and learn a little more about it…

      1. You’d think Tinder would actually let you know that though, yeah? If something is considered offensive, that should be made clear to the person who did it. It’s possible that my clumsy “banter” could have been offensive, but I wouldn’t know. Getting feedback on your game is impossible sometimes.

        1. Ewww. Your clumsy banter was probably sexual harassment. If you are being kicked off tinder, you have received multiple
          Complaints. If you are receiving multiple
          Complaints you are doing something inappropriate. Grow up.

          1. Actually, I think that’s incorrect. I think I’ve been thrown off multiple times because a) my Facebook profile is not that of a legal person, but instead a pseudonym, and/or b) the profile pictures I posted were judged to violate Tinder’s TOS. I don’t, actually, harass anyone. Ever.

          2. Woah. Okay, stop there. This comment was left 4 years ago- it turns out I wasn’t kicked off, I was just using a garbage Windows phone that couldn’t handle the app. I still have the same Tinder account. I’ve never recieved any warnings on it, nor would I. As I dind’t give an exampe of anything I wrote, this leaves you looking pretty naive.

            Not every guy is a sexual harasser and you should be careful making accusations like that.

  2. This commenter seems to have started trolling you after trolling me. S/he’s been writing hostile comments on my blog, too, and resisting my attempts to have coherent conversation. I don’t know if I count as “good” company, but you’re at least in company with me….

    1. I’m not trolling. I’m commenting. I’m honestly not really sure what to say to you anymore. I find it funny that you think commenting negatively on some very controversial topics is “trolling.”
      Also find it funny that you feel the need to rub the back of another man for getting a negative comment. You guys are hurt? Please grow up.
      I was not engaging because you don’t really want to have productive conversations. You seem to want to shove your very cliche boring opinions down my throat. I get it. I get you. I just think it’s gross. No conversation needed. You have a public blog. People are allowed to comment they think you’re gross.

      1. Of course they are. And I’m allowed to respond however I wish. I could simply delete your comments, report them as spam. And, respectfully, I think you are trolling. You’ve called me names, you’ve alluded to a chorus of judges lined up behind you, but you haven’t connected a single word of what you’ve written to a single word I’ve written. You call me gross, my thoughts gross. You say I’ve learned nothing. And you do so on a post in which, I thought, I demonstrated considerable openness and remorse for actions in which I engaged when I was 12 years old. I invite substantive comments, but don’t really tolerate name calling so well. Not that it bothers me exactly. Just that, literally, I won’t tolerate it. Disagree with me, fine. But call me names and shy away from substantive engagement?

        Nah.

        1. I am dying. Thank you for the laugh neighbor. I am truly glad you are getting something out of this blog. It’s honest to god the weirdest thing I’ve stumbled upon all year. Like weird but also super boring and ego centric. You are giving us some laughs down the block. Good luck on your journey. Stop taking f’ing cialis as a sec addict. Step 1.

          1. I would say you’re exemplifying trolling. Seeking to get a rise out of someone with ad hominem and substance-free name-calling while refusing to engage thoughtfully.

            Enjoy my blog, as you have done. I wonder what keeps you coming back, and reading so comprehensively?

            Also… When I come across those with whom I disagree, or whom I find gross, I like to wonder what, in me, they are arousing, why I respond as I do. I tend to look inward, rather than to judge. I find that a useful practice.

            I don’t imagine that’s so much how you roll, but I confess, I am curious about just what it is that has caused you to engage with such contempt and hostility with someone you deride as gross.

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