I’ve written about this topic before, at least two times , but now’s a good time, again. One of the odd features of my sexuality, of my psyche, is that I have an insatiable hunger not just for sex, or for feeling desire/d, but for the complexification of that desire, for its refractory multiplication. I don’t [...]
Four couples, unknown to each other, but screened as you say for basic body type, and for impressive verbal skills. They meet at a restaurant. Four tables for two. They split up, sitting a man and woman at each table but not matched with their own spouses. The man speaks first. For three uninterrupted minutes, [...]
Oral sex school Three couples Each man spends twenty minutes between the thighs of each woman. Each woman spends twenty minutes between the thighs of each man. As with all my sexual fantasies, nudity is to be avoided, clothes maintained as much as possible. Each person names (at least) three things each other person did [...]
See below, but with one modification: Each woman masturbates in proximity to a man, not her partner, who cums on her.
Circle jerks never appealed to me. They seemed like a sort of simultaneously homoerotic and homophobic phenomenon. But now – as a straight, adventurous, adult – the idea of a coed circle jerk – one done with a little taste, and subtlety? That sounds hot. Let’s get a group of four or five couples together [...]
The men: we (all) wear jeans, tight t-shirts. The women: you (all) wear tiny black dresses, black thongs, black thigh-highs, black shoes. There are four couples. We’ve never met. We gather for drinks at 9 pm. The men talk in one group. And assign the numbers “1″ to “4″ to each of the men. [...]
Join us for a debauched night of fun. We are looking for two other couples. Our intent is to pre-approve one another via e-mail, exchanging only accurate body photos and verbal descriptions, and then to “meet” in a dark bar with bathrooms ideal for one-on-one encounters. We will not speak. Each couple will wear a [...]
In my New Year’s Resolution post a year ago, and again yesterday, I mentioned “high-concept swinging” as a goal. A couple of readers asked just what I meant by that. Sorry – I was talking to myself when I wrote it, imagining you would know exactly what I meant when what I mean isn’t at [...]
There’s a little “open relationship mini-quiz” that’s been making the internet rounds lately. It showed up here, and here. I thought I’d tackle it as well for your reading pleasure. 1. What insight about open relationships do you wish you had when you started? 2. What has been the hardest thing about opening your relationship, [...]
Dan Savage wrote a column last week arguing, forcefully, that polyamory isn’t a sexual orientation. This seems to me akin to “presenting both sides of the evolution debate,” granting some basic structural plausibility to a ridiculous assertion, the mere speaking aloud of which grants it more legitimacy than it ever should enjoy. Rather than add my [...]
