Jan 232015
 

There are devotees of The Ethical Slut who are militantly opposed to dishonesty anywhere in or among relationships among the poly world. There’s often a judginess that accompanies this that rubs me wrong. I wrote, almost three years ago, about a date I’d gone on with a woman who wouldn’t fuck me because, at the […]

Jul 292014
 

But not with me. L, you may recall, was the impetus behind this blog. When I first started writing it, she and I were something of an item. That was almost exactly three years ago. In the time since then, our little affair ran its course, but we’ve remained good friends. We typically meet for […]

Jun 262014
 

“There is no such thing as sexual competition, there is only the continual coming to terms with the fact that one can never be someone else…. Our rivals are merely other people. They are helpless, like us, because they only have one real advantage over us, and it is always decisive. They will never be […]

Jun 032014
 

Does distance make me dumb? Insensitive? Ferns (over at Domme Chronicles) and I have been having a discussion about the challenges of having profligate relationships in public. She’s curious about the dynamics of this all. She’s curious at an interesting moment. For much – even most – of Sofia’s and my relationship, she has been […]

May 042013
 

I’m familiar with jealousy. I feel it often, with everyone. I’m less accustomed to being an object of jealousy, the one inspiring jealousy in others. That’s not right: What I mean is, I’m not used to worrying that my behavior makes another person feel jealous. For whatever set of reasons, jealousy has never been among […]

Apr 022012
 

Some while ago, I wrote about the perils of being both a good partner, friend, fuck buddy, and a slut. And not just a slut, but an exhibitionistic, blogging slut. At any given time, I maintain several relationships. Each is different, but there are similarities. For example – most women with whom I get involved […]

Mar 052012
 

I get jealous easily. I could waste a lot of breath judging myself, saying that “jealousy’s a useless emotion,” or that it’s “counter-productive,” or whatever.  But that’s not how I work with my emotions. For me, the fact is, jealousy is there:  I’m narcissistic, I’m grandiose.  I want to be everything to everyone. I’ve said […]