Jun 052015
 

Over a year ago, I posted Esther Perel’s first TED Talk, in which she hyped her terrific book, Mating in Captivity. Recently, TED posted a second talk of hers, this one entitled “Rethinking Infidelity.” It’s another great talk, in which she declines to demonize anyone or anything, and simply engages, non-judgmentally, compassionately, with a few […]

Apr 292014
 

Almost exactly two years ago (!), I wrote a post on “ethical non-monogamy.” That post resulted in (or was followed by) a series of comments in which, among other things, I was analogized to a Nazi (or, to be precise, my argument was analogized to that of a Nazi), and all of my photos on […]

Feb 202014
 

Two years ago, I wrote about fucking Svetlana, a woman who worked in a massage parlor. Marian Green, the author of the excellent Creative Noodling blog, recently commented on that post, that it’s a “rush,” a “high,” to seduce someone “who shouldn’t be allowing him or herself to be seduced.” What I liked best about […]

Dec 052012
 

Lately, I’ve been observing – and feeling – all sorts of judgment. Now, when I’m at my best, I’m almost entirely non-judgmental. I don’t like judgment, don’t like judging people, don’t like feeling judged. The truth is, I think it’s rarely possible to judge someone fairly without walking a life in their shoes (forget a […]