Being a sex blogger can be hard, but it’s rewarding, in often surprising and complicated ways.
Jul 062017
Oct 282016
What’s going on? I’m seeking – and finding abandonment. And I’m tolerating it.
Oct 212016
In the end, Nastya made me feel unimportant. Not exactly undesired, just not prioritized, somehow disrespected. And so I ended things. Or let her end them. I’m not sure which.
Aug 182016
An examination of all of the sensations associated with rejected or abandoned. Or imagining I have been.
Jul 052016
Why peek-a-boo, and blindfolds, are, or can be, fun. But also why they can be over-stimulating.
Jun 282016
The catalogue of disappearing women continues.
Apr 142015
Recently, a Tinder woman used me as masturbation fodder. There’s nothing wrong with this, of course, except that she disappeared shortly after she came, she lied about her intentions, and was gone without saying bye. When she left, we had notional plans to meet, and she had promised me very much. I should say, I […]
Jan 232015
There are devotees of The Ethical Slut who are militantly opposed to dishonesty anywhere in or among relationships among the poly world. There’s often a judginess that accompanies this that rubs me wrong. I wrote, almost three years ago, about a date I’d gone on with a woman who wouldn’t fuck me because, at the […]
Dec 152014
Tinder is recalibrating me just a little. In my life, one hundred percent of the people I interact with, I treat the same way: with a combination of interest and respect. I say “please” and “thank you.” I’m genuinely interested in people’s – everyone’s – experience. This is true of taxi drivers, baristas, waiters, retail […]
Dec 142014
A couple of times lately, with at least three different women, I’ve noticed an unfortunate feature of the workings of my desire. Even the most perfect compliance can be drowned out in my head by too much enthusiasm. And by “too much,” I mean something dangerously like “any.” Here are a couple of examples of […]